the five love languages

I just read Gary Chapman's classic relationship book on the five languages of love.  He's come up with a very simple concept to help married people get the spark back.  The five love languages are:  physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service and quality time.  The way my wife Tania tends to express her love for me (like baking things she knows I like and generally taking care of me) is her preferred way of receiving love as well.  She is an "acts of service" gal.  One of the things that is a great stress to her is anything that is broken down.  I can easily show her love in a very meaningful way by picking something and fixing it, whether that is taking a dog into his physio appointment or getting the leaking eavestrough fixed.  As her love tanks gets filled, she more naturally gives me the quality time I seek.  Where the system takes some faith is this:  love is an action and a gift, something I give to my spouse with the expectation of return.  But what of course makes this work and sustainable over the long term is that it becomes reciprocal in time.  Check out Chapman's work at http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/.  Happy Romancin'.